Narcissists often quickly replace discarded partners with new ones, showering them with attention and affection.
Why We Keep Getting Involved With Narcissists
We learn coping strategies to deal with how we are treated, particularly early in life.
We learn coping strategies to deal with how we are treated, particularly early in life.
The Many Things a Narcissist Steals From You
Relationship with a narcissist in a nutshell: You will go from being the perfect love of their life to nothing you do is ever good enough.
Relationship with a narcissist in a nutshell: You will go from being the perfect love of their life to nothing you do is ever good enough.
The Narcissist’s Fascination With You — At First
With most narcissists, after the fascination comes the dissection. Instead of being the object of their interest and curiosity, they simply want to take you apart.
With most narcissists, after the fascination comes the dissection. Instead of being the object of their interest and curiosity, they simply want to take you apart.
Time Can Indeed Heal
Time helps us heal when we do our work.
Time helps us heal when we do our work.
Talking About Childhood Abuse: Two Ways to Respond to Someone’s Pain
Parent #1 says, somewhat defensively, “This is really hard for me to hear. I’m not sure what you want me to say or do.
Parent #1 says, somewhat defensively, “This is really hard for me to hear. I’m not sure what you want me to say or do.
The Three Pillars of Change
In terms of narcissistic abuse and relational trauma, I think these three pillars apply.
In terms of narcissistic abuse and relational trauma, I think these three pillars apply.
Why Narcissists Don’t Tend to Seek Treatment
The difference between something being ego-syntonic and it being ego-dystonic.
The difference between something being ego-syntonic and it being ego-dystonic.
You Are Somebody
As I work with targets of narcissistic abuse in my coaching practice, this is often the core work to be done.
As I work with targets of narcissistic abuse in my coaching practice, this is often the core work to be done.
Five Part Strategy for Removing a Narcissistic Boss
Do NOT let the toxic person know what you are planning.
Do NOT let the toxic person know what you are planning.
A Strange and (Possibly) Entertaining Story
In which I am the unexpected dupe in a rental scam–and I still don’t know who was responsible. Was it my toxic ex or was he a dupe as well?
In which I am the unexpected dupe in a rental scam–and I still don’t know who was responsible. Was it my toxic ex or was he a dupe as well?
Ten Things I’ve Learned About Narcissism Along the Way
It’s everywhere.
It’s everywhere.
Is It Synchronicity or Love Bombing? How Do You Know?
It’s just a way they get people hooked. But of course for the target, it feels real.
It’s just a way they get people hooked. But of course for the target, it feels real.
Learning to Be Ok With Guilt
Are you stuck in a toxic relationship because of your own uncomfortable feelings?
Are you stuck in a toxic relationship because of your own uncomfortable feelings?
The Myth of the Frog in Boiling Water
We normalize things and adapt ourselves in order to get through the day.
We normalize things and adapt ourselves in order to get through the day.
How Narcissists Use the Idea of Scarcity to Hook You
Scarcity: the gap between limited—that is, scarce—resources and theoretically limitless wants.
Scarcity: the gap between limited—that is, scarce—resources and theoretically limitless wants.