Connecting with other targets of abuse and hearing their stories is a great way to loosen the bonds of a cognitive trap.
Sorry HR, but Please Don’t Send Me Your Narcissist to Coach
The more of a snake they are, the less likely any sort of intervention will turn them into a kitten.
The more of a snake they are, the less likely any sort of intervention will turn them into a kitten.
Is It Fighting, or Is It Abuse?
I find this interesting to poke into and I generally ask them to tell me more about the interaction.
I find this interesting to poke into and I generally ask them to tell me more about the interaction.
Why Narcissists Can’t Change: The Broken Mug Metaphor
One of the most painful things to face if you’re in relationship with a highly narcissistic person is the extreme (and I mean extreme) unlikelihood that they will change.
One of the most painful things to face if you’re in relationship with a highly narcissistic person is the extreme (and I mean extreme) unlikelihood that they will change.
Three Ways to Deal With the Narcissist on the Energetic Level
Sometimes the narcissist seems to have everything under their control on the human level, leaving us feeling stuck, paralyzed and at a complete loss as to what to do.
Sometimes the narcissist seems to have everything under their control on the human level, leaving us feeling stuck, paralyzed and at a complete loss as to what to do.
When the Narcissist Expects You to Be Their Emotional Support Animal
Good relationships don’t involve one person being the other’s on-call therapist / coach / security blanket.
Good relationships don’t involve one person being the other’s on-call therapist / coach / security blanket.
Three Lesser-Known Ways You Can Be Love Bombed
We can all be loved bombed without knowing it, and a clever narcissist will figure out just what you most crave.
We can all be loved bombed without knowing it, and a clever narcissist will figure out just what you most crave.
When the Narcissist Ignores Your Boundaries
Anyone who has ever dealt with a narcissist in any context (family, work, intimate relationship) knows that boundaries are essential.
Anyone who has ever dealt with a narcissist in any context (family, work, intimate relationship) knows that boundaries are essential.
The Art of Love
When working in the arena of relational trauma the subject of love comes up all the time.
When working in the arena of relational trauma the subject of love comes up all the time.
Your Strategy Doesn’t Have to Be Your Destiny
All children need to figure out how to get the attention and approval needed to survive.
All children need to figure out how to get the attention and approval needed to survive.
Leaving a Toxic Relationship–Gaining the Will or Figuring Out the Way?
Difficult change can be thought of as requiring two key components: having the WILL to make a change and knowing the WAY to do it. Knowing the WAY can improve your WILL, and having the WILL can help you find a WAY.
Difficult change can be thought of as requiring two key components: having the WILL to make a change and knowing the WAY to do it. Knowing the WAY can improve your WILL, and having the WILL can help you find a WAY.
Why Narcissists Can Be Compelling
At a time when many of us feel uncertain (about the world, about our leaders, about ourselves), a narcissist’s projection of certainty can feel admirable.
At a time when many of us feel uncertain (about the world, about our leaders, about ourselves), a narcissist’s projection of certainty can feel admirable.
What’s Worse, a Grandiose or a Covert Narcissist?
One of you rattles your tail and shows your scales in the sun.
One of you rattles your tail and shows your scales in the sun.
Two Ways to Respond to Someone’s Pain
Being listened to and taken seriously is healing.
Being listened to and taken seriously is healing.
How We Impact Each Other Energetically
As we increase in awareness, we increase in empathy and sensitivity so energy fields affect us more strongly and quickly.
As we increase in awareness, we increase in empathy and sensitivity so energy fields affect us more strongly and quickly.
Three Things I Learned From Trying to Love a Narcissist
It’s late 2018 and I’ve been with the X for going on two years. I’ve been trying my best to build a connected, loving relationship with him but nothing is working, and I’m slowly feeling worse and worse.
It’s late 2018 and I’ve been with the X for going on two years. I’ve been trying my best to build a connected, loving relationship with him but nothing is working, and I’m slowly feeling worse and worse.