Difficult change can be thought of as requiring two key components: having the WILL to make a change and knowing the WAY to do it. Knowing the WAY can improve your WILL, and having the WILL can help you find a WAY.
Why Narcissists Can Be Compelling
At a time when many of us feel uncertain (about the world, about our leaders, about ourselves), a narcissist’s projection of certainty can feel admirable.
At a time when many of us feel uncertain (about the world, about our leaders, about ourselves), a narcissist’s projection of certainty can feel admirable.
What’s Worse, a Grandiose or a Covert Narcissist?
One of you rattles your tail and shows your scales in the sun.
One of you rattles your tail and shows your scales in the sun.
Two Ways to Respond to Someone’s Pain
Being listened to and taken seriously is healing.
Being listened to and taken seriously is healing.
How We Impact Each Other Energetically
As we increase in awareness, we increase in empathy and sensitivity so energy fields affect us more strongly and quickly.
As we increase in awareness, we increase in empathy and sensitivity so energy fields affect us more strongly and quickly.
Three Things I Learned From Trying to Love a Narcissist
It’s late 2018 and I’ve been with the X for going on two years. I’ve been trying my best to build a connected, loving relationship with him but nothing is working, and I’m slowly feeling worse and worse.
It’s late 2018 and I’ve been with the X for going on two years. I’ve been trying my best to build a connected, loving relationship with him but nothing is working, and I’m slowly feeling worse and worse.
How Do We Move Past Narcissism as a Society? Stop Individual Lionization
We tend to associate entire fields of study with a great man (rarely with a great woman). This man is pictured as having seen beyond the narrow mind-set and ethos of his era.
We tend to associate entire fields of study with a great man (rarely with a great woman). This man is pictured as having seen beyond the narrow mind-set and ethos of his era.
When Is it Time to Focus on YOU?
It’s typical to spend our time and energy trying to figure out the narcissist, but at some point, we also need to focus on ourselves.
It’s typical to spend our time and energy trying to figure out the narcissist, but at some point, we also need to focus on ourselves.
Being Mad Doesn’t Mean You’re Bad
And three, we have probably rarely been able to know, experience or find the right way to express our own legitimate anger.
And three, we have probably rarely been able to know, experience or find the right way to express our own legitimate anger.
Another Reason Narcissists Like to Lie — It’s More Fun
Bottom line: lying generally requires greater effort by the prefrontal cortex* than telling the truth does. This actually makes it stimulating and even more fun for the narcissist.
Bottom line: lying generally requires greater effort by the prefrontal cortex* than telling the truth does. This actually makes it stimulating and even more fun for the narcissist.
Will I Ever Stop Thinking About the Narcissist?
A Story in Five Chapters.
A Story in Five Chapters.
Three Keys to Making New Neural Pathways
Remember, neuroplasticity is a six-syllable word for hope.
Remember, neuroplasticity is a six-syllable word for hope.
Why I’m Not a ‘Good Vibes Only’ Person Any More
There is no part of your being unworthy of love and acceptance, and healing means learning how to include it all.
There is no part of your being unworthy of love and acceptance, and healing means learning how to include it all.
Preparing the Field to Leave: Exiting a Toxic Situation
Preparing the field can feel like you’re not doing enough, but it is an important part of the process.
Preparing the field can feel like you’re not doing enough, but it is an important part of the process.
Is Your Empathy for Others Blocking Your Own Emotions and Needs?
Don’t get me wrong, I love empathy. In fact, not having full empathy is the hallmark of the toxic personality. It’s a healthy way we relate to other humans.
Don’t get me wrong, I love empathy. In fact, not having full empathy is the hallmark of the toxic personality. It’s a healthy way we relate to other humans.
Breaking Promises to a Toxic Person
I needed to break my word to him in order to keep a bigger commitment to myself.
I needed to break my word to him in order to keep a bigger commitment to myself.