Control narrows life, while trust expands our capacity to live with life as it is.
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Enmeshment: When Love Masks Control
Healing means learning that intimacy and autonomy can coexist.
Healing means learning that intimacy and autonomy can coexist.
Narcissistic Entitlement: What You Can Do?
Their relationships are painfully one-sided. They believe that your purpose is to serve their needs and wants.
Their relationships are painfully one-sided. They believe that your purpose is to serve their needs and wants.
Tolerating Other People’s Reactions and Feelings
Learning to tolerate discomfort is part of becoming emotionally independent and fully ourselves.
Learning to tolerate discomfort is part of becoming emotionally independent and fully ourselves.
How to Stop Overthinking: Causes, Signs, and Solutions
Overthinking. It’s often a response to trauma.
Overthinking. It’s often a response to trauma.
Daughters of Narcissistic Fathers
Daughters of narcissistic fathers suffer long-term effects to their self-worth and romantic relationships.
Daughters of narcissistic fathers suffer long-term effects to their self-worth and romantic relationships.
Identifying Abusive and Coercive Control and What to You Can Do
Control is not always obvious—it can develop gradually and be mistaken for care or concern.
Control is not always obvious—it can develop gradually and be mistaken for care or concern.
How Codependency Distorts Love and Sexuality
It can be associated with power or obligation, and is influenced by shame, guilt, confusion, secrecy, or coercion, and hunger for love.
It can be associated with power or obligation, and is influenced by shame, guilt, confusion, secrecy, or coercion, and hunger for love.
6 Best Tips for a Great Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day creates a lot of expectations that are often unrealized. It’s fraught with landmines, whether you’re in or out of a relationship, the grass isn’t always greener. Is your situation described here? Read six tips for having a great holiday.
Valentine’s Day creates a lot of expectations that are often unrealized. It’s fraught with landmines, whether you’re in or out of a relationship, the grass isn’t always greener. Is your situation described here? Read six tips for having a great holiday.
Breaking Triangles That Hurt Us and Harm Our Children
By not using your child to balance the relationship dysfunction, you reclaim your role as the adult who protects.
By not using your child to balance the relationship dysfunction, you reclaim your role as the adult who protects.
When a Parent Can’t Be Trusted
An unmet need to idealize parents in childhood can shape adult relationships in subtle but powerful ways
An unmet need to idealize parents in childhood can shape adult relationships in subtle but powerful ways
The Trauma of Objectification
Relational trauma often happens in dysfunctional families, especially where there is mental illness or substance abuse.
Relational trauma often happens in dysfunctional families, especially where there is mental illness or substance abuse.
Why Standing Up to Abuse Is Hard
We’ve been conditioned by childhood trauma to freeze, fawn, or collapse.
We’ve been conditioned by childhood trauma to freeze, fawn, or collapse.
The Most Common Trauma You Don’t Know About
We may not be aware of it until we question why we keep attracting unavailable partners or are forced to self-reflect on our fears when we’re in a secure relationship.
We may not be aware of it until we question why we keep attracting unavailable partners or are forced to self-reflect on our fears when we’re in a secure relationship.
The Hidden Trauma of Triangulation
The trauma occurs when one child is used to quietly carry the emotional burdens of the marital system or entire family.
The trauma occurs when one child is used to quietly carry the emotional burdens of the marital system or entire family.
Different Types of Empathy and Hidden Dangers
Empathy is essential for satisfying relationships.
Empathy is essential for satisfying relationships.