Where is your power center? Is it in you or in other people or circumstances?
Stopping enabling isn’t easy. Nor is it for the faint of heart.
A healthy family is a safe haven – a place of sustenance and nurturing – that has an air of openness, spontaneity, and playfulness, and allows for freedom of expression.
Narcissists don’t usually seek help unless a major loss shatters their illusions. But both narcissism and codependency can be healed with courage, time, and a commitment to yourself.
Codependency is highly recoverable, but requires effort, courage, and the right treatment.
If you’re wondering if your relationship is abusive, it probably is.
What makes intimacy so difficult? It requires vulnerability – risking openness.
What makes interconnections healthy is interdependency – not codependency.
The rub is that when self-esteem is low, it’s painful to take responsibility. People rather make excuses and blame others, since they already feel so bad.
Here’s a list of more subtle red flags that may signal unavailability, especially when several add up. They apply to both genders.
Even in a healthy relationship, there are periods, days, and even moments of emotional abandonment.
As long as you’re under their spell an abuser has control over you. In order to become empowered, you need to educate yourself.
As adults, we can’t stop ourselves from sacrificing our needs and wants in relationships, often at the expense of our own happiness.
Codependents grow up in homes where there are no rules or the rules are harsh and rigid, or inconsistent and arbitrary. Children need a safe, predictable, and fair environment.
Like all emotions, shame passes, but for addicts and codependents, it hangs around, often beneath consciousness, and leads to other painful feelings and problematic behavior.
Cultivating an attitude of acceptance enables us to feel grateful even when we’re in pain.