Our thinking and behavior revolve around the object of our addiction, while our true self is cloaked with shame. But we can obsess about anyone or anything.
There are steps you can take to protect yourself from becoming a victim of a narcissist’s games and changing the relationship dynamic.
Its stages – cognitive, emotional, physical, legal, and spiritual – if worked through, can substantially lessen your pain.
People tend to think of abandonment as something physical, like neglect. Loss of physical closeness due to death, divorce, and illness is also an emotional abandonment. It also happens when our emotional needs aren’t being met in the relationship – including in our relationship with ourselves.
Manipulation is a way to covertly influence someone with indirect, deceptive, or abusive tactics. Manipulation may seem benign or even friendly or flattering, as if the person has your highest concern in mind, but in reality, it’s to achieve an ulterior motive.
We seek or avoid intimacy along a continuum, but one of the following three styles is generally predominant whether we’re dating or in a long-term marriage.
True love does require that we recognize our separateness and love our mate for who he or she truly is.
There is hope, and there is help for the addict and for codependent family members.
Dark Triad refers to three unusually negative personality traits—narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellianism.
Someone with NPD is grandiose (sometimes only in fantasy), lacks empathy, and seeks admiration from others, as indicated by five of these summarized characteristics.
This time of year is especially difficult because there’s an expectation of feeling merry and generous. People compare their emotions to what they assume others are experiencing or what they’re supposed to feel and then think that they alone fall short.
If you like drama, excitement, and intensity, enjoy the ride, because things will never be calm.
Unlike ordinary shame, “internalized shame” hangs around and alters our self-image.
Their inflated self-flattery, perfectionism, and arrogance are merely covers for the self-loathing they don’t admit–usually even to themselves.
Things we take for granted, such as eating, sleeping, dressing, walking, laughing, working, and socializing may be lost to a person with chronic pain.
If we grew up in a troubled environment, we might confuse our pain with love. Although relationships have disappointments and conflicts, love isn’t supposed to be painful and hurt so much.