Everyone’s got a closet where they put whatever they don’t want people to see.
Do They Have To Forgive You?
Even if you apologize perfectly and completely reform your ways, your partner might be so stuck in being a victim that he won’t see that you’ve changed.
Even if you apologize perfectly and completely reform your ways, your partner might be so stuck in being a victim that he won’t see that you’ve changed.
How to Ditch Shame
You’ve done something wrong. You’ve not been as good as you could be.
You’ve done something wrong. You’ve not been as good as you could be.
Should You Feel Guilty?
The steps of reparation
The steps of reparation
The Mountaintop Moment
The first step towards reconciliation.
The first step towards reconciliation.
How to Re-traumatize Yourself
And un-re-traumatize yourself, also.
And un-re-traumatize yourself, also.
The Scab Pickers
A scab picker will say, “I can’t stop thinking about it.”
A scab picker will say, “I can’t stop thinking about it.”
The Righteous Idiots
Don’t be one of those people who think, just because they are right, they can afford to be stupid.
Don’t be one of those people who think, just because they are right, they can afford to be stupid.
Renounce Revenge
Revenge is said to feel good, but I have my doubts.
Revenge is said to feel good, but I have my doubts.
How To Tell if You’re Just Being a Big Baby
You’re a big baby when your birth certificate documents you’re an adult, but you’re not acting like one.
You’re a big baby when your birth certificate documents you’re an adult, but you’re not acting like one.
Playing the Victim
You deserve an Academy Award if you act like you played absolutely no part in what happened to you.
You deserve an Academy Award if you act like you played absolutely no part in what happened to you.
Stay On the Road
To stay on the Road to Reconciliation, and not drive off over the cliffs on either side, you first must acknowledge your hurt, then set it aside.
To stay on the Road to Reconciliation, and not drive off over the cliffs on either side, you first must acknowledge your hurt, then set it aside.
The Helpless
Look for the open door.
Look for the open door.
The Discount Pardoners
Once you’ve acknowledged that someone you love has hurt you, next comes the difficult decision of what to do about it.
Once you’ve acknowledged that someone you love has hurt you, next comes the difficult decision of what to do about it.
Victims in Denial
You might have thought it’s only offenders who engage in denial.
You might have thought it’s only offenders who engage in denial.
Meaningful Suffering
Versus becoming an impossible martyr.
Versus becoming an impossible martyr