To commemorate one year of the Father Time column, let’s roll the tape and look back at some highlights.
B.C. and A.D.
A doctor once explained to me: “There are two distinct phases of time in a parenting couple’s life,” she said. “B.C. and A.D.”
“What does that mean?” I had asked her, my only reference point being Before Christ, etc.
“Before Conception and After Diapers,” she said. “Everything in between is a vacuum of time.”
Her explanation of this interim period didn’t make much sense to me when we spoke about it, me having just started the journey of fatherhood. But now, smack in the middle of one toddler just past the two-year mark, and an infant into his fifth month, I see it. There will never be a full break in the agenda, at least not until said underpants go on said butts.
It’s this time between B.C. and A.D.—this netherworld of round-the-clock care—that is the most precious. It’s the time when the babies will be babies and never again. Blink and they’ll be off to college.
Right now is perhaps the most challenging time, but it’s the best time. It’s the only time they’ll never remember, and the time you’ll never forget.
Photo credit: Robert Couse-Baker.