Nobody ever thinks their marriage will end. I certainly never did.
But after eighteen years of happy marriage, that’s exactly what happened when my spouse said three little words that would bring our relationship to an abrupt halt: Let’s “do this again”
When we had said our wedding vows, I never expected to hear them again in such a context.
Yet here we were, both looking at each other with an air of finality as he uttered those words that brought the curtain down on a marriage that had been built on faith, hope, and love.
What followed next was an entirely new set of emotions, as I was thrust into a world of grief and uncertainty.
I had to come to terms with the fact that my marriage was over and try to pick up the pieces of my life in its aftermath.
In such a situation, it can be helpful to remember why you got married in the first place — what were those three little words that started this journey all those years ago?
For me, those three words were “I do.”
They symbolized the commitment I made to him on our wedding day, and they created a bond of trust between us that was meant to last forever.
In the wake of divorce, it can be difficult to remember why you got married in the first place. But when things get tough, it helps to remember that those words started something special.
It can also be helpful to look back on the happy memories you shared as a married couple.
When I think back on my marriage, I fondly recall all the wonderful moments we enjoyed together and all the amazing places we visited.
These memories are what keep me going through difficult times, and they remind me of the love we once shared.
Divorce can be an incredibly painful experience, and it takes time for you to process your emotions and let go of all that pain.
Take time for yourself — find activities that make you feel good and surround yourself with people who truly care. This can help you to move forward and find joy in life again.
The end of a marriage is never easy, but it can be the beginning of something beautiful if you allow yourself the space to heal, remember your happy memories together, and focus on what really matters.
No matter how difficult things get, never forget those two simple words: “I do.”
They may have brought about the end of your marriage, but they can also be a reminder to keep moving forward and never give up on yourself or your dreams.
Life is full of surprises, and you never know what amazing things could be waiting for you just around the corner.
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With faith, perseverance, and self-love, you can rebuild your life and find the strength to start anew.
Reach out for help when you need it, and don’t be afraid to take a chance on something new — you never know what could come of it.
Above all, remember that your life is yours and yours alone — no matter how things turn out, make sure you put yourself first and follow your heart wherever it takes you.
Life may not always be as easy or simple as you’d like it to be, but in the end, your courage and commitment will lead you to greater things — things that you never thought were possible.
So take a deep breath and try to stay positive — life is full of surprises if we let it be.
Don’t dwell on the past; instead, embrace the present and have faith that you can move forward with your head held high.
It’s ok to be scared or uncertain about what lies ahead; just remember to keep going, to never give up.
Life is full of possibilities but sometimes we need a reminder to push past our fears and take charge of our own destiny — the future is in your hands.
No one deserves to be stuck in a situation that’s not right for them, and it takes immense strength to walk away from something you once loved.
But if you do make the decision to end your marriage, don’t forget that you have so much potential — the sky is the limit!
Take some time for yourself and explore all of the options available; find out what makes you truly happy and make sure you pursue it with all your heart.
Life is short, so don’t be afraid to take risks and reach for the stars — even if it means leaving a marriage that has become stagnant or unhealthy. Despite what some might think, ending a marriage doesn’t mean that you’ve failed; rather, it’s a sign of strength and growth.
At the end of the day, it’s important to remember that the words — “We’re getting divorced” — don’t define who you are or what your future holds.
Life is unpredictable, and no one knows what the future holds.
But with courage and determination, you can make the most of every moment and create a life that you love.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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