Breakups can lead to a dark night of the soul.
It can be dark, depressing and dreary. But in the upswing, heartbreak can lead to spiritual growth.
If you’ve been getting spiritual nudges, you should consider these 5 spiritual tools to help get through the rough patches.
Remember, spiritual tools aren’t a replacement for professional help. If you think you have depression or need advice, you should speak to a mental health professional.
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#1 Intuition
When looking for spiritual tools to help you get over someone, your go-to should be your intuition. Intuition can be thought of as your inner knowing or higher self.
If you tune into your intuition, you’ll know what feels right. In many cases, you’ll know that the breakup is necessary, even if it’s painful right now. Whether or not you’re the one who made the decision, you might know inwardly that they’re not right for you.
These intuitive hits can be difficult to listen to when you’re with a person. But after a breakup, you might be able to recognize them with less bias. It can create the space you need to think.
Often when we’re in relationship, we get the feeling that it won’t last or that something is amiss. Because we’re attached, we keep holding on. When you split with someone, it’s sad, but sometimes it feels like you can finally breathe. That’s a sign that you’ve followed your intuition and you’re on the right path. Of course, losing anyone — even someone who’s not right for you — is difficult. But when you tune into your intuition, it can affirm that it’s the best decision, whether or not you made it.
There’s many ways to practice your intuition. The key that will help all spiritual exercises is to become more silent, which involves meditation and mindfulness. When you make time to become still, it’s easier to hear and notice the inner voice.
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#2 Tarot Spreads for Love
When you think about telling the future, tarot cards are probably one of the first tools to come to mind. While you can use them for this purpose, you should also use them for insight into your situation, yourself, or your life.
A pack of traditional tarot cards comes with 78 cards that are broken up into two parts: the major arcana and the minor arcana. Each card represents an archetype or a life lesson or event.
By doing a tarot spread for love, you can learn about the meaning of each card. In doing this, you can see how it relates to you or your life. This can lead to personal insights you might not have seen before. For example, let’s say you pull the ten of wands. This might confirm how you feel: you’re carrying the weight in all of your romantic relationships. Realizing this, you can give yourself permission to seek different types of partners.
There’s other ways you can use tarot spreads for love. If you find journaling therapeutic, use the cards as writing prompts. Reflect on the meanings and relate them to your situation. You can also skip the meanings altogether and focus on the imagery: what does the card mean to you?
Using tarot for fortune telling is fun, but you should also consider them a tool to learn more about yourself.
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#3 Crystals to Help with Heartbreak
Crystals are stones that some people believe have healing abilities. Other people just like the look of them. Whether you believe in healing crystals or not, you can use them to inspire healing. For example, rose quartz on your desk can serve as a visual reminder that you’re accepting love. A piece of amethyst could remind you of your intention to be mindful and meditate more.
During heartbreak, even small pieces that brighten your space can help usher in some needed happiness. Here’s some crystals to help with heartbreak from a spiritual perspective:
- Amethyst
- Rose quartz
- Malachite
- Moonstone
- Selenite
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#4 Books
Finally, one of the best spiritual tools you can use to help you through a breakup are books. Whether it’s spiritual, inspirational, motivational or self-help genre, look up some new titles and create a list.
While reading is great, also consider audiobooks. You can listen to these while you do anything else. There’s something about hearing someone’s voice that dampens the loneliness of a breakup. It makes you feel like you have a friend guiding you along the way.
You can find most of your favorite titles on Audible, but many books are available for free using the Libby app (you’ll just need a library card).
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#5 Connection
A part of spirituality is connection with other living beings. During a breakup, you might want to be alone and shy away from the world. If you don’t want to see other humans, consider other ways you can create connection. Spiritual connection can happen with nature or animals.
Try taking a walk into the forest or by the water. Take a moment to sit down and just be with the other living organisms around you.
You can also connect with other animals, such as pets. Spend intentional time with your dog by cuddling, petting, or playing. Science shows that dogs can help with heartbreak in a few ways, like making you feel less lonely.
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Conclusion
When you’re going through heartbreak, healing takes time and sometimes nothing can speed that up. However, going through dark times draws people toward spirituality. If you can relate, lean into it. There’s some spiritual tools that can help you through a breakup, even if it doesn’t cure your pain. These should be thought of as exercises to boost self-insight. If you’re having trouble getting through a breakup, you should seek science-backed treatment from a counselor first.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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