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good morning about to make the kids
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breakfast if you guys don’t
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our beloved child Theo has been really
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into hockey ever since he saw Mighty
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Ducks a few years ago quack
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got a little hockey ring in the backyard
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not a hockey ring we got a goal and he
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practices with a tennis balls so the
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boys have been in the backyard playing
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hockey and they’ve been pretty
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aggressive
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now the boys being aggressive that’s
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just a part of life the way they act
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while playing hockey is something
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different the reason is because Theo
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skates pretty well Uriah doesn’t skate
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well right and it’s not because your
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ride doesn’t know how to skate he just
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doesn’t want to put time in to learn how
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to skate similar to the bike thing but
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today I asked Theo if he wants to go try
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out for hockey he said yes Uriah said I
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want to go now I didn’t ask Ryan to do
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it because he doesn’t remember he
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doesn’t want to use his hands and feet
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when he plays a sport
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this is what Ryan’s busy doing
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no
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Pinecone never mind
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hockey isn’t one of those sports that
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you just kind of pick up right it’s a
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pretty Hands-On sport it’s a lot of hand
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eye heat coordination with the stick
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it’s aggressive you got to wear a lot of
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gear so I wasn’t expecting Ryan to say
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he wants to go he said he wants to go
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I’m a little nervous and try out but who
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knows man I could be wrong as a matter
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of fact I hope I am because if two kids
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play the same sport then that means it’s
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less trips right they get to do
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something together they get to practice
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together to get better together it’s
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just easier that way aim is to say today
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I’m going to try to be different be very
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encouraging and uh if you’re right wants
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to play I’m gonna be really excited if
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he doesn’t want to play I’m gonna be
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really excited because it’s up to him
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it’s not up to me now of course I’m
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going to try to be encouraging because
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that’s just my responsibility but that
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will be able to be there to be the back
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of encouragement in the beginning so
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hopefully by the time she gets there
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she’ll be able to help me out
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look I’ve never assembled hockey gear so
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I didn’t know what was going on I was
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trying to look at other people to see
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how to put it together for the boys and
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I did the best that I could they had a
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bucket of used gear that kind of
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reminded me of that scene from Little
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Giants where the football team had that
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old school gear and I’m sure it would
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have been nicer but we showed up late so
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it was slim pickings I really just
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wanted them to get out there and have
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fun and I was super excited for your
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ride they gave himself a chance and
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tried out but early on he was struggling
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with the skating and I can tell he was
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getting embarrassed so I checked in with
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him how you feeling good how you doing
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man
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good uh how do you do that
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is it easy or is it hard how you guys
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feeling it’s a lot of equipment you guys
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got on you guys aren’t used to playing
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all that equipment yeah
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sweaty yeah
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especially him you need to take that off
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I don’t know how to take it off I gotta
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go ask one of the coaches as I watch
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Theo out there I can see him studying
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the game just watching everybody move
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practicing as much as he could every now
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and then pulling up his hip pads because
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they were entirely too big for him but
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then I gotta look at his eyes and you
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could actually see him studying the
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patterns of how everyone was controlling
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the puck
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foreign
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also striking up conversations with
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other kids to ask them questions or even
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just to get to normal a little bit
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I think Uriah was doing pretty good out
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there and I don’t know what happened but
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at some point he made his way outside
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the rink and started taking off his gear
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I didn’t want to pry too much but I let
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him talk as much as possible but he
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would later tell his mother how he truly
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felt so you don’t want to play any
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outside Sports
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like I don’t want to have to use it you
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don’t want to have to use a hand so you
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want to play soccer
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but why didn’t you like this today
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explain exactly what it is
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okay because you wanted to play this I
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didn’t say hey let you come on I said
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deal
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yeah so um I made it
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[Music]
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because you made a complete
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embarrassment of yourself
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because all right it’s like when I’m
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wearing the helmet I can’t um
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well you’re also using somebody else’s
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number you don’t have a helmet for you
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you don’t have your size
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[Music]
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my intention really was that I wanted
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him to have fun I wasn’t trying to trip
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off of whether or not he felt like he
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was good at it I just wanted him to want
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to do whatever it is he was going to do
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but then this little voice in the back
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of my head kept telling me don’t let him
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quit because remember what happened with
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the bike he quit that and then you
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helped him figure that out again and you
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pushed them towards success but
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sometimes I don’t want to fight those
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battles
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are you going to practice with the team
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so okay in order to do that you’re gonna
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have to prove it to me by coming here
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and using this other people’s gear next
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week we’ll be here early
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you can practice with the team and if
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you do a good job yeah and you don’t
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quit and you practice the whole time
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and this week you practice skating
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then I’ll buy you on gear
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okay
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[Music]
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and then you gave up
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you gave up after that right no one
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expects you to know what to do like
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immediately
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you gotta keep trying
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the green you see the green jersey green
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over there so do you want to try it
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again or no
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I’ll try it again
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we were sitting there watching Theo play
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something happened and I think this was
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a huge boost of confidence for Theo he
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scored a goal in the scrimmage at the
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last second
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[Music]
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hi oh my gosh I’m so proud of you can I
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take a picture of you in this thank you
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very much
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okay okay okay really quick really quick
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really quick
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okay good job
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sleeves
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man was I proud watching Theo score that
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goal seeing the look on his face and
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everybody else being kind of impressed
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and surprised
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was cool to see I mean it’s his first
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time playing hockey and he scored on a
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goalie that’s a pretty big deal so maybe
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he was into it so I had to check in with
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him to see if he still wanted to play or
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not
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you want to be on the team if they have
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it okay
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when we made it back in the car I really
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wanted to hear Theo’s recap of how he
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scored I felt like this would boost his
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confidence but also I wanted to give
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Riley room to talk about maybe another
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sport he wanted to play or something
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else he might be interested in no I
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didn’t ask for the um so I was blah blah
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blah so every so the guy had the puck on
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my team and he randomly just passed
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passed it to me and then and then I just
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and then I had the Pug and so
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and then like that
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but the um goalie
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didn’t really get it because he was all
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the way together
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I wanna try bike races
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bike races yeah all right you just
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learned how to ride your bike
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you ready to race
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yeah
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he kept going back and forth he talked
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about maybe wanting to be the goalie and
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then he talked about maybe wanting to
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play soccer and then he talked about
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well maybe I can do bike racing then he
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landed on maybe I’ll play basketball
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okay so cool Ryan’s gonna play
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basketball Theo’s gonna continue in
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hockey oh right now you just tried
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hockey it was okay
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and you don’t have to I really want you
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to want to play because it’s an
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expensive game right
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hockey like
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like it it is it costs a lot for the
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equipment for the skates
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for like
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you know all the gear like it costs a
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lot of money and so we’d have to buy all
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that and if you
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don’t want to play it then you shouldn’t
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play it you know what I’m saying
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but then Ryan also said that he was
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interested in trying again so I gave him
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another opportunity next week to check
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it out on the extended episode on
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patreon you’ll see how Theo did during
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his hockey assessment welcome welcome
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back
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Sabbath I could relax
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just like yo-yos come right black hold
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on
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[Music]
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