To achieve success in online dating, you must be targeting women who are receptive to your advances. Make sure you’re not aiming too young when it comes to their age.
While most of you haven’t done any math since high school Algebra (which we are beginning to learn officially what most high school Freshmen know innately) there is some math that you need to do when you are out dating and looking for love.
You gotta know your Creep Number.
I first found out about the Creep Number years ago, when I was still very active on Match.com, but was feeling very, very invisible to the women who were out there.
I was in my 40’s and I was getting lots of winks and messages from women in their 40’s.
I was in my 40’s and I was sending lots of winks and messages to women in their 30’s.
Their low 30’s.
And I wasn’t getting any responses, and I didn’t know why.
Enter The Creep Number
Here’s a news flash – there’s a whole lot of women in their 30’s who don’t want to get messages from men who are almost 50.
Well, thankfully some do, and I’m going to marry her, but for the most part there’s the whole “You’re old enough to be my Dad” kinda thing going on.
Then there’s the whole “He’s having a mid-life crisis” thing going on, complete with sports car, mustache and bachelor pad on the beach with hot tub.
Both of these things are kinda creepy.
As a man, you must know that the time has come for you to grow up and date women closer to your own age.
Thankfully, there is a quick and easy way to get a ballpark figure for those women who might be a bit more receptive to your winks, nudges, and drinks sent over via the bartender. You gotta do the math and you gotta find out your Creep Number.
The Creep Number is the the rule of thumb for the lowest age of the women you can date without seeming like a creep.
Calculate Your Creep Number
I know y’all hate math, but you gotta do it at least one more time. Here’s the equation:
Your Age / 2 + 7 = Your Creep Number
That’s your age, divided by two, then add 7 to that number.
For example, right now I’m 53 years old.
Divide that by 2 and you’ve got 26.5. You always need to round UP.
So, therefore, the absolute youngest I can go is 34.
This is a great starting point, but it shouldn’t be where you live.
Adjust Your Age Thermostat
Once I figured out my Creep Number, I then started looking for women who were within 10 years of that number. That helped me adjust my age thermostat.
What’s an age thermostat?
It’s the age of the women that you think you should be dating.
Sometimes the Creep Number and the Age Thermostat number are close, that’s a good thing.
Sometimes the Creep Number and the Age Thermostat number are far away, and that’s a bad thing.
For me, I finally had to realize I was not 30 any more.
I was almost 50, and it was time to start acting like someone who was almost 50.
I needed to start dating the women that I should be dating, both from a societal point of view and an “I don’t want to appear creepy” point of view.
This opened up my world immediately!
The more I messaged the older women, the more responses I received and the more coffee dates I went on. As we know, this is definitely a numbers game, and you need to really be aggressive and going out on lots of coffee dates.
To get those coffee dates, you gotta send winks and messages and emails, and you gotta send them to the women who will be most receptive to them and say “Yes”.
If you haven’t had any success with online dating, take a good hard look at those women you are messaging and the age of those women. Are you messaging age appropriate women, or is your Age Thermostat stuck at 20?
Figure out your Creep Number.
Add 5 or even 10.
Start messaging those women.
I know that you’ll have greater success and if so I want to hear about it!
This article originally appeared on William Mize’s Website.
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