Straight guys who suffer from sexual dysphoria are prisoners of their own sexuality: they desperately desire women but can’t seem to relate to them as human beings.
“All who are male slices pursue the males . . . . it is not out of shamelessness that they do this but out of boldness, manliness, and masculinity, feeling affection for what is like to themselves. . . . When they are fully grown men, they . . . naturally pay no attention to marriage and procreation, but are compelled to do so by the law; whereas they would be content to live unmarried with one another.” —Plato’s Symposium (191E-192B)
Of all the sad specimens I meet in this broken and burning world, few evoke more spontaneous sympathy than those heterosexual folk who are, it seems, prisoners of their own sexuality. I’m talking about the straight women who clearly can’t stand men. And I’m talking about the heterosexual guys who really, in their heart of hearts, don’t like the company of women. Some of these guys are downright misogynists. But in my experience most aren’t. Women are simply a mystery to them, a mystery they’re not interested in solving. Gender is for them a kind of tall garden wall, a barrier made of solid stone, which keeps them from seeing women as people. These guys are happiest when they’re hanging out with “the guys”. As such, wouldn’t they be happier if they could get a little man-on-man action at the end of the night? I think so. Incidentally, I’ve yet to meet a gay man who hates men. And I’ve never even heard of a lesbian who hates women (with the possible exception of Camille Paglia). Regardless, it’s now common to speak of gender dysphoria (e.g., being a woman trapped in a man’s body). But perhaps we need to start talking about an equally tragic condition: sexuality dysphoria (e.g., being a heterosexual douche who simultaneously desires women and can’t stand them, the kind of guy who wants women but can’t seem to relate to them as human beings.)
In order for someone to be diagnosed with Sexuality Dysphoria, I propose the following criteria: First and foremost, the individual must be a heterosexual who finds it impossible to relate to members of the opposite sex as human beings. Secondly, the individual must manifest six (or more) of the following symptoms for at least a six-month duration:
- repeatedly stated desire to participate exclusively (or as much as possible) in all-male or all-female environments (e.g., the kind of guy who always wants to hang out with “the guys” and finds hanging out with his girlfriend a chore).
- in young men, preference for expressions like “bros before hoes”; in young women, preference for expressions like “chicks before dicks”.
- strong and persistent misogynistic/misandric tendencies.
- a strong and persistent inability to empathize with members of the opposite sex.
- intense desire to participate in the stereotypical games and pastimes of the same sex.
- strong preference for playmates of the same sex.
- a strong dislike of members of the opposite sex.
- a strong desire to objectify members of the opposite sex.
- persistent discomfort in the presence of members of the opposite sex.
Gender Dysphoria can’t be “cured” (nor should we even try to “cure” it). But Sexuality Dysphoria can (and should) be cured. The cure has a name: its name is feminism.
—John Faithful Hamer, Butterflies not Crocodiles (2016)