There are two kinds of people in the world.
- Those who say what they’re going to do.
- Those who do what they say they’re going to do.
Which are you?
And if you’re both, which are you more of?
Be honest.
Now, let me ask you this:
Which of those groups do you think is happier?
Now, let me ask you this:
Which of those groups do you think loves themselves more?
Now, let me ask you this:
Why would a person who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do be happy?
Now, let me ask you this:
Why would a person who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do love themselves?
Yeah. I know. I run a company that helps people develop a healthy relationship with food forever, and I’m talking about being happy and loving yourself.
That’s because having a healthy relationship with food isn’t about the food.
It’s about you.
What’s your relationship like with yourself?
Have you ever thought about that?
Now, let me ask you this:
Do you think you have a healthy, happy, loving relationship with yourself if you keep telling yourself you’re going to get this diet thing right but never really commit to it?
If an outside observer was looking at you and your behavior, wouldn’t they say you’re out of alignment with yourself?
Don’t you think it takes a toll—all that telling yourself what you want and not actually going for it?
Because you’re seeing the self you can be in your head but aren’t moving towards it. Or maybe you’ve moved toward it before and then started holding back or sabotaging yourself. Or maybe you move towards it, then back a bit, then forward a bit, then back, then… yeah. You know, like a yo-yo.
It’s interesting, isn’t it, how much happier and confident and, yes, healthy you’d be if you just committed to getting this food thing right once and for all. And yet, you avoid it. You look for excuses as to why you can’t do it.
Because it will be “hard.” Because it will require change. Because you’ve never done it before and so maybe you can’t do it.
Because it will require you to do what you say you’re going to do and you’re not used to that and so you might fail and then you’ll feel like a failure and you don’t want to risk that.
Here’s a reframe for you:
If you commit to something, 100 percent, with all of you, you can’t fail.
It’s impossible.
Because any “failure,” any slip-up, anytime you “fall off,” you learn from it. You can’t help but use it to get better.
So… any “failure” just gives you a greater chance at success, at becoming the person you see in your head.
It gives you an even greater reason to be a person who does exactly what they say they’re going to do because you realize how important it is to your happiness and to your quality of life.
When you commit to something, any “failure” just makes that commitment deeper.
When you commit to developing a healthy relationship with food no matter what, there’ll be times where you regress back into who you used to be when you used to be a person who used food to fill some emotional void. It will happen, and there’s no point fighting it because it would mean fighting being human.
But when it does happen, you’ll realize something: you didn’t exactly enjoy it. You didn’t feel proud of yourself. You didn’t get the same thing out of it as you used to because you’re different now.
Different in that developing a healthy relationship with food is your primary goal, rather than using food as a quick hit of “pleasure.”
Different in that doing what you say you’re going to do has become your pleasure rather than your pain.
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