Question: When the cat is away, this little mouse likes to play. When my husband is away, I hook up with my ex-boyfriend. I know it is wrong but I just can’t stop doing it. I have tried to cut him off but the sex with my husband is mediocre and the sex with my ex…
My wife wants more kids… and I don’t!
"She's complained how our youngest doesn't need her anymore but I can't afford to support a bounty of children!" Allana Pratt Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt suggests...
Question: I’ve been married to my beautiful wife for 12 yrs. We have two amazing children and as far as I am concerned, our family is complete. She wants to be a stay at home mom and I’m completely supportive of that. However recently she’s complained how our youngest doesn’t need her anymore and she…
My Husband Whines. How Do I Get Him To Stop?
"He gets up, goes to work, comes home. I'M THE ONE dealing with all the chaos." Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert invites her to consider...
Question: Coach Allana, how do you handle an emotional person who wants to whine about everything? My husband and I are going through a tough time, not each other, just life in general. I’m handing everything yet he’s constantly bitching! While I understand this is his way to express, I am frustrated because I’m handling…
My GF says she’s ‘fine’… yet she’s not. What gives?
"I hate finding out from a mutual friend that I've messed up". Allana Pratt Intimacy Expert suggests 3 things...
Question: What methods can you suggest to help my girlfriend be more open and forward in communicating? She’s a “fine” person. Nothing’s ever wrong. She’s “fine”. Then I find out days or weeks later from a mutual friend no less, that I’ve messed up. Answer: What a great question… Well my friend, many things might…
Are Dating Sites Still Taboo?
Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt asks, What if our point of view creates our reality?
Question: Do you feel online dating sites are still taboo? Answer: Thank you for your question. I’m grateful as it’s a curious one to me… I didn’t know dating sites were considered taboo. However I honor your point of view given I’ve had so many clients over the last two decades who have such diametrically opposed…
My Wife Says She Doesn’t Love Me But She Won’t Leave Either!
Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt doesn't buy it that he doesn't know why. She challenges him to dig deeper...
Question: I think my wife doesn’t like me and I don’t know why. I haven’t done anything wrong, I believe. She won’t answer my calls and when I ask her about it when she gets home, she just blows me off. I have directly asked her if she loves me, and she’s been very clear…
I Walked In On My GF Kissing Another Man!
He said all the right things. She was confused. Should I trust her? Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt suggests...
Question: Coach Allana, I walked in on my girlfriend kissing another man! She said it was a mistake, she was vulnerable and he was saying all the right things at the right time. She was so confused. Should I trust her? It was only a kiss but maybe’s she’s telling the truth. Answer: Oh my goodness……
I’m 19. My Year Long Relationship Has Been A Bumpy Ride!
The love affair started in Grade 2, now they're in college. Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt suggests...
Question: I’m 19 and I’m going through a bit with a relationship of mine. I was wondering if there would be any way for us to talk about how things could play out? I really really love this girl. I had a crush on her since Grade 2. I’m going into my second year of…
My Teenager is Freaking Out That We’re Moving!
"How can I get him on the same page and excited about the move?" Allana Pratt Intimacy Expert suggests...
Question: Allana, My youngest is entering high school next year and we just received military orders to move. He is FREAKING out! How can we get him on the same page? And excited about the move? Answer: Oh my goodness, oh my goodness! Of course they are freaking out! I totally get it! While you…
School’s Complaining About Our Kid, We CAN’T Agree On What To Do!
My husband wants to increase discipline while I'd like more interactive interventions. Allana Pratt Intimacy Expert recommends...
Question: My husband and I have a difference in opinion for parenting. Our three going on four year old is receiving complaints from school and my husband wants to increase discipline while I’d like to find more interactive interventions. Which method do you think is better? Answer: One definition of consciousness is total allowance and non…
I Need My Space From My GF!
"When I bring it up, she starts crying. I can't breathe!" Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt suggests...
Question: I need my space from my girlfriend! When I bring it up she starts crying because she thinks I’m ending it. I’m not ending it. I just can’t breathe! Saying this just makes her defensive. What gives? Answer: My goodness how disconcerting for you that every time you bring it up she starts crying thinking…
The Last Kid Left. We Have NOTHING To Talk About.
Communication in my marriage is dead. My husband and I no longer say full sentences to each other. Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt suggests...
Question: Communication in my marriage is dead. My husband and I no longer say full sentences to each other. It started when the last child left the home and has gotten worse over the past few months. Is this a sign? Answer: Quite often years if not decades can go by where we don’t really realize we…
I’m Two People~ One Dating & One in Real Life
How can I feel comfortable being myself when I am dating? Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt suggests...
Question: I feel as if I wear two masks when I am dating. When I am on a date, I try to be the person they desire; however, when I am back home or out with friends, I am myself again. How can I feel comfortable being myself when I am dating? Answer: This is such a…
How Do I Let Go Of The Past?
Will my past relationship always be my basis of comparison? Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt encourages...
Question: How do I move on from my past relationship? Will it always be my basis for comparison? Answer: When the past is incomplete and we haven’t processed the lesson and integrated the wisdom… The past does keep showing up in our present moment and create our future. Why did they hurt us? Why did they abandon…
My Wife’s Stopped Trying So I’m Going To Stop Being a Good Boy…
"Why put up resistance to co-worker when my wife doesn't give a damn?" Allana Pratt Intimacy Expert strongly counsels....
Question: Coach Allana, is it wrong for me to start fantasizing about other women if my wife has stopped trying? A coworker at work has started coming on a little strong. While I have been a very good boy, I’m tired of putting up resistance is my wife doesn’t give a damn. Am I wrong…
My GF is always late, blames me for treating her like a child. Help!
How do I get her to understand it's about courtesy and respect? Allana Pratt Intimacy Expert suggests...
Question: My girlfriend is such a poor planner. She’s always late to everything but gets angry when she feels rushed. I’ve tried to explain to her that it’s about respecting people’s time. She says I’m just talking to her like she’s a child and people just need to be patient. Do you have a better…