Throughout my 20s and 30s, I often stayed in relationships I was deeply divided about staying in.
This happens in all relationships, straight or otherwise. It’s a masculine-feminine dynamic, not a man-woman dynamic.
An “Awakening Man” wants a woman who will speak her truth to him, a woman who knows men aren’t equipped to read minds or even not-so-subtle clues.
For every man, in his deepest heart, ACHES to be held accountable to showing up fully in his life, and fully for love.
The most important relationship of all is TO YOURSELF.
Most men are heavily burdened by the sexual shame and disorientation that runs rampant through our modern world. What we do inside that shame and disorientation is tragic for everyone.
“Why? … I don’t even care about my feelings. … Anyway, everything is fine, I’ll be fine.”
In the end, I believe the best any of us can ever hope for is a partner who’s simply willing to keep showing up, who’s willing to learn how to do this wild dance of opposites with at least a little more grace and tenderness and flow and laughter and love than we experienced yesterday.
Throughout my adult life, no woman ever broke up with me that I didn’t want or even subtly encourage to leave.
Even many strong, independent people cling stubbornly to the fantasy that a partner will somehow complete you.
There’s something about being aware of that reality that completely shifts my perception of everybody around me and every so-called problem I might be facing.
I really need SPACE to do my best creative work – not just physical space, but psychological, emotional, and especially TIME space.
You cannot scare off a man – or anyone – who is genuinely ready to learn how to love all of you.
If you want your man to connect with his heart, model it by staying connected to yours. Allow yourself to fully feel what you feel, when you feel it.
If her upset isn’t immediately understood and validated, she gets even more upset!
If you’re struggling in the face of challenge, adversity, pain, this meditation is profoundly comforting.