Ignore all advice saying otherwise.
It’s tempting and popular to label a lot of what we humans deal with as “difficult”.
What are we so afraid of?
Despite having most everything I wanted, I would often feel painfully diminished inside.
On a recent Saturday, my lady and her mom spent the morning baking chocolate banana bread in our kitchen.
Whatever your purpose for a relationship is today, it can be profoundly empowering to know it for yourself, and communicate it with clarity and kindness to whomever you’re dancing with now, or in the future.
Throughout my 20s and 30s, I often stayed in relationships I was deeply divided about staying in.
This happens in all relationships, straight or otherwise. It’s a masculine-feminine dynamic, not a man-woman dynamic.
An “Awakening Man” wants a woman who will speak her truth to him, a woman who knows men aren’t equipped to read minds or even not-so-subtle clues.
For every man, in his deepest heart, ACHES to be held accountable to showing up fully in his life, and fully for love.
The most important relationship of all is TO YOURSELF.
Most men are heavily burdened by the sexual shame and disorientation that runs rampant through our modern world. What we do inside that shame and disorientation is tragic for everyone.
“Why? … I don’t even care about my feelings. … Anyway, everything is fine, I’ll be fine.”
In the end, I believe the best any of us can ever hope for is a partner who’s simply willing to keep showing up, who’s willing to learn how to do this wild dance of opposites with at least a little more grace and tenderness and flow and laughter and love than we experienced yesterday.
Throughout my adult life, no woman ever broke up with me that I didn’t want or even subtly encourage to leave.
Even many strong, independent people cling stubbornly to the fantasy that a partner will somehow complete you.