In your mind, the date went great. The attraction was there. You shared stories and laughed. You can’t wait to go out again. You asked for a second date and…crickets. What happened?
In today’s dating scene, there’s more competition and complexity than ever, which means that making a positive impression on a first date is essential. As a professional matchmaker, I have cracked the code on what it will take to get you to date number two! If you’re looking for an LTR, consider my 7 tips to help you lock in a second date.
1.) Freshen up. The easiest way to lose someone’s interest is with poor hygiene. If you’re coming straight from work, bring some items to freshen up before you leave the office – mints, deodorant, a comb, some gel and cologne. This will also help you reset and feel ready for the date.
2.) Dress to Impress.When you arrive underdressed, it gives the impression that you don’t care. Show your date that they are a priority by wearing nice clothes that fit well and make you feel confident. Workout clothes? That’s fine if you’re taking a hike but not when you’re meeting at a restaurant. Try a wrinkle-free collared shirt and some fitted dark jeans.
3.) Be on time. It can often be seen as an indication of your commitment to the date and your reliability as a person. To air on the safe side, aim to arrive 15 minutes early. It’s the easiest way to start the date off on the right foot.
4.) Listen, then speak. I recommend the 60/40 rule. Spend 60% of the time listening and 40% speaking. When you have this in mind, the conversation will naturally feel balanced. When you and your date are equally sharing, you’re more likely to feel chemistry.
5.) Ask questions. Show interest. Talking about yourself for an entire night will practically guarantee that a second date doesn’t happen. Show your date that you are interested in getting to know them by asking questions and staying curious. You can even prepare a few interesting questions ahead of time to get the conversation started, such as “tell me something about yourself that I would be surprised to know.”
6.) Set a goal. To help the conversation flow naturally, keep a goal in mind during the date. This will ease any nerves and remind you to focus on them. For example, the goal could be discovering three things you have in common or identifying three things that you really like about the person, e.g. they are kind, generous, and loving.
7.) Be yourself 100% of the time. People can immediately detect when someone is being insincere or trying too hard to impress.The best way to know if you are truly compatible is to be yourself. It shows that you are comfortable and confident – and that’s the biggest turn-on.
If you follow the tips above, you are on track for a successful first date. I can’t guarantee the chemistry, but if you feel good about date number one, definitely ask them out again!
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I do not date anybody via Web or Social. It is a waste of time and money. I do not trust women anymore. Only occasional sex thanks to the sex liberation decided by criminal feminism. Modern women are not anymore able to be loyal and good motherand wife.
All of this! Men showed up unshowered, with dirty hair, in sweats with holes (4x), most at least a half hour late, and then would lie about being married, smoking, and try to impress with easily verifiable untruths.