‘Nice Guys’ Need to Walk This Tightrope

Ever spent time chatting with a true babe only for her to say “nice to meet you” and walk away?

How did it feel when she left you with nothing? No phone number. No hot sex. Just “nice to meet you”.

How about when you spotted her tongue down some other guy’s throat later on?

This is the destiny of the ‘nice guy’ trying to pick up women at the bar. If he approached 100 women, he’d get 90 “nice to meet yous” and no action.

I’m painting this picture because I was that guy. I felt that pain.

And it will remain yours until you learn to walk the tightrope between “awesome” and “offensive”.

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Here’s how ‘nice guys’ try to get some action

By definition, ‘nice guys’ will never do or say anything to risk offending anyone.

They don’t make outrageous comments.
They don’t make bold moves.
They don’t disagree with anything a woman says.
They don’t grab her hand and drag her to the dance floor.
They don’t flirt physically or try to kiss her.
They don’t invite a woman back to their place for hot kinky sex.

Deep down, ‘nice guys’ would LOVE to do these things. But they play it safe for fear of offending the woman and losing her. Ironically, they’re more likely to lose her by acting this way.

I’m not telling you to force a woman into something she doesn’t want. But I am saying that these things rarely happen unless a man initiates it (and his woman follows).

Sometimes you’ll initiate too quickly. Sometimes she won’t follow you. She might even get upset that you tried.

But the alternative is: a 30-minute conversation to nowhere that ends with “nice to meet you”.

So, you might as well shoot your shot.

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What should ‘nice guys’ do instead?

‘Nice guys’ are afraid of criticism. They’re afraid of losing a woman who’s being kind to them. So, they don’t take any risks. They don’t say anything controversial or do anything to sexualise an interaction. Instead of playing to win, they play to not lose.

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Ironically, you’re more likely to lose with this strategy. You might not get rejected instantly, but women will eventually walk away bored.

It’s much better to be authentic and unfiltered around women. Say what you want to say. Do what you want to do. You might offend some women along the way, but I promise you’ll attract a lot more.

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Why is this so effective?

When you’re unfiltered with your words, it sparks an emotional rollercoaster that thrills women. It’s unpredictable. It signals that you’re not trying too hard to impress her. And it’s WAY more exciting than agreeing with everything she says.

When you push things forward physically, it relieves them from having to do it themselves. Women love sex just as much as men, but it makes them feel cheap to actively pursue it. They adore when the right man has the bravery to make it happen for them.

Sometimes, you’ll say the wrong thing. Sometimes, you’ll get too physical too quickly. Then, it’s on you to quickly adjust your behavior. That’s why it’s called a tightrope.

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This is the real you

The ‘nice guy’ inside you isn’t you. It’s a product of fear. It’s not authentic to be a people-pleaser.

The person who expresses themselves without filters is the real you. Embracing him will feel like a weight off your shoulders, even if it is a little scary.

You might offend a few people. You might get the occasional drink thrown in your face. But that’s the price of entry if you’re serious about bringing women into your life.

The guys who don’t walk the tightrope don’t get action from women. The guys who do will find the women who love them for who they really are.

If you’re tired of racking up “nice to meet yous” from women, it’s time to embrace your authentic self.

You got this.

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