If you’re ready for the real thing, love will feel like:
- an oasis in the desert; wonderful and nourishing, and good to return to regularly.
But it wouldn’t be smart to spend all your time there, no matter how tempting that is. You’d soon get complacent and bored. It’s good to make sure you remember how to get back there so you can make regular visits, but at the same time to keep exploring new things to do, and learn from so that you keep growing as a person, and always have interesting things to share with your lover.
Or:
- having a glass of the best wine imaginable – delicious and intoxicating.
It’s reassuring to know it’s there whenever you’d like to taste some more, but it’s never a good idea to drink every day. That fine drink would soon lose its appeal and before you know it you’d be needing more of it to get the same effect – and that is a slippery slope down to the sad place of feeling that you can’t live without it. It’s at this point when you are vulnerable to being manipulated and controlled – not to mention becoming very unattractive, even to your lover. The best idea is to only drink on (regular) special occasions!
The best part about love is that it gives you the chance to see the lively spirit that is in you – and in all of us – reflected in another person, and to do the same for them. Loving them will help you to love yourself more. But beware of needing to be loved as a way to feel you have value, because however much you get, it will never be enough to fill your empty soul, and you’ll be trapped in the hamster wheel of always looking for more.
Finally, keep in mind these two important facts about Love.. How any woman feels about you will be shaped by how she feels about herself when she’s with you – and that is partly down to the quality of attention and appreciation that you can give her. And also remember that to freely give and accept love with a partner, you must first grow the most important relationship in your life – the one I have with yourself!
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This Post is republished on Medium.
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