What can men do to last longer in the bedroom?
You’ve tried it all. Nothing has worked. You cannot last in the bedroom. You think you’ve got everything under control and then:
- She feels too tight.
- She’s too wet.
- Hell, being inside her just feels too good.
You cum, quickly. Much to quick to please her, but she doesn’t bring it up. It’s a sensitive subject. Especially when you’ve been making such an effort to gain control of your ejaculation.
You’ve taken pills. You’ve bought creams. You began doing Kegel exercises. You’ve tried masturbating frequently in hopes of training your penis like a cardio workout to a distance runner. Hell, you even thought about your grandma one time when you began to lose control.
Nothing worked, but the granny thing certainly scared you for life. That’s something you just can’t forget. Some thoughts should never arise, just like some problems continue to persist.
Sadly, you cannot get rid of your premature ejaculation. Your girl feels your pain and she sympathizes with you, but she starting to get frustrated. You can tell she is not satisfied. This depresses you. Your work may start to suffer. Other relationships may begin to fall apart. You don’t feel like yourself.
If you’ve found yourself in a situation like the above, I suggest you relax a bit. The world is not going to end just because you can’t be inside a sexy woman for more than 30 seconds without coming, I promise.
As well, there is good news. By harnessing the power of your mind, you can end your premature ejaculation. You’ve been looking for external solutions to an internal problem.
Mental Causes Of Premature Ejaculation
Before you can control your ejaculation, you need to understand why it may be happening so quickly. There are a number of causes why men finish too quickly: chemical imbalances, physiological, and the most common, psychological. Over 75% of men who deal with premature ejaculation have a psychological issue with regards to their sexuality.
It’s rare to find men dealing with chemical imbalances and physiological issues that lead to premature ejaculation. If the cause of your quick trigger is not psychological (hard to know for sure), you may want to see a doctor.
If you have high anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, lots of tension in your body, high stress levels, or are fearful of expressing yourself sexually – then you’re most likely coming quickly due to a psychological issue.
These factors can all lead to premature ejaculation. These factors can also cause chemical imbalances in your body. In order to deal with any issues, we need to understand what factors are caused by sexually driven motives and which are not.
Sexual Anxiety, Fear, and Your Penis Size
A majority of men who deal with premature ejaculation have a psychological issue that stems from some form of sexual anxiety. Often this anxiety or fear comes from one issue—men are not confident they are good lovers who can satisfy a woman.
And what are the most common reasons men think they do not satisfy women? Penis size and a lack of experience. However, women universally describe their worst lovers as awkward lovers who weren’t confident in the bedroom.
Unless you’re dealing with a size queen (rarer than men think), she really doesn’t care how big your penis is. She has no idea how experienced a lover you are unless you explicitly told her.
In the bedroom, she can feel your confidence, she can feel your nervousness, and most importantly, she can feel your passion. Instead of worrying about sex, take a step back and relax. Slow your mind and let your fears drift away. Stop worrying about what she thinks and stop worrying about everything.
Train your mind to be in the moment. Free your mind of anxiety. Fear your mind of fear. Your penis is big enough. You are experienced enough to please any and every woman.
If you truly do not believe the above, then you need to change your mind. Wake up and say each one of the bulleted items 20 times each:
- I have a big penis.
- I can please any woman.
- I have rockstar stamina.
No More Porn or Masturbation
Watching porn rewires your mind in a bad way. Watching too much porn and vigorous masturbation will lead to sexual exhaustion. Sexual exhaustion from pornography can lead to a depletion of neurotransmitters and neurohormones, which results in an imbalanced production of all hormones in a man’s body.
The imbalances created often result in depletion of hormones responsible for sexual function. This will cause ejaculation management skills to become contorted. Your body has to prepare itself for sex. Once hormones are depleted, the regions of the brain that control timing and estimation of ejaculation do not function normally.
The easiest way to reverse this mental issue is to eliminate porn and masturbation. Your brain will begin to rewire itself as your hormones begin to balance again. Once this happens, you will begin to regain some control of your ejaculation.
Your mind controls the energy flow throughout your whole body. One way to improve control over your ejaculation is to control the energy flow through your body during intercourse.
As blood rushes to your penis during the beginning of intercourse, you also send a majority of the energy in your body down there as well. This is a good thing as you have a lot of sexual energy when you have an erection.
Yet, instead of having all of your sexual energy in your penis along you can use energy flow to send that energy throughout your whole body. This ancient Taoist technique has been practiced for years to help cure premature ejaculation through the use of the mind.
Now you may have no idea how to move sexual energy out of your penis and through your whole body, but that’s fine. It’s going to take some practice. You’ll be working on controlling your breathing and energy.
Here’s what to do.
- Begin to relax. Start monitoring and controlling your breathing. Continue to inhale and exhale normally. Loosely close your eyes. Press your tongue against the roof of your mouth. Focus your mind and every single thought you have between your eyebrows.
- Deeply inhale through your nostrils in 2-5 second intervals. Feel your abdomen expand. Focus your thoughts towards the center of your body, right around the navel.
- Begin to hold your breath as your abdomen is expanded. Move your abdomen downward by flexing your upper abs. You’ll begin to feel pressure around your bladder and prostate area. Begin to turn your mental focus to this area. Continue holding your breath in a relaxed state while applying pressure to your prostate region. This pressure will begin to block sensitivity to the penis, aiding in ejaculation control.
- Next, begin to contract and clench your anus. Slowly begin to exhale from your mouth while beginning to focus on the area between the eyebrows once again. Do several rounds of this exercise. You should feeling a hot energy in your prostate area that rises up your spinal cord to your head once finished.