I’ve been on and off dating apps ever since they came out. I haven’t met too many guys on them, I’d say somewhere around 7–10, but there is a phenomenon I have noticed in that men are lying about their height, saying they are 6 feet or above, when in fact they are not.
I understand that women can be cruel on these apps, saying that they only want to meet a guy who is 6 feet or over, or else they won’t even give a guy a chance. I’ve heard some horror stories — one man told me a woman left the date because he wasn’t tall enough at 5’9,” and she was about 5’2.”
Everyone is entitled to get what they want, so if that’s something that is important to someone, then they should be able to find it. For me, it was more important in my younger days, and while it’s always nice to date someone who is tall, I’ve found it much less important in terms of looking at a person as a whole.
What I do find important in a potential mate is that they are honest. If we meet and you are not the height you listed in your profile, you have already lied to me right off the bat. That is a major red flag. It’s more than a red flag. It’s a deal-breaker for me. If you are using a fake height as a way to lure me in, what else are you going to lie to me about in the future?
Honesty has always been an important quality to me, and it will always be. Maybe it’s not everyone’s priority to be honest, but if you are on a dating site, wouldn’t you want to put your best foot forward in terms of first impressions? If you Catfish me and do not resemble the person you portrayed yourself to be on the app, consider yourself instantly Nexted. Ah, MTV is so great.
This post was previously published on Hello, Love.
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